Defiance April 3, 2012
Posted by battysgirl in Friends & Family.trackback
Here is a summarization of my past few days:
Me: Celeste, its time to go potty.
Celeste: No!
Me: Celeste, please come here.
Celeste: No!
Me: Celeste, please, don’t kick the back of the chair.
Celeste: *Kicks the back of the chair again…*
I swear she is only listening to half of what I ask her to do and its driving me crazy. In the middle of my crazy I get this:
Celeste keeps kicking the lock on the car door so that when I come around to open the door and let her out, I have to fumble with her baby sister and the keys to let her out. As I’m taking Jules from the car, I wise up to it this time, unlock it before my hands are full and tell her to stop kicking the door lock.
Me: Celeste, don’t kick the door lock again, I’m coming to get you now and if you lock it I can’t open your door.
Celeste: Okay.
Me: Thank you. *Gets Jules out of the car and start to come around to the other side of the car*
Celeste: *Kicks the lock on the door to engage it*
Me: *Opening the cargo bay to get other stuff* So, you locked the car door… after I asked you not to. Deliberately.
Celeste: Yes (FINALLY a yes, but not what I was hoping for).
Me: I should just leave it locked and go inside without you for a minute to show you how that bothers me…
Celeste: No, I have a good idea. How about you unlock the door, come and get me and we go inside together!
I lost my mad right then and there. She’s too freaking smart. I can’t even imagine what she’ll be like as a teenager… I shudder to think. Currently, I try to keep my cool in the face of such defiance. I don’t want her to see that it bother me as much as it does. I repeat things three times and then just take any option away from her. I tell her why I’m upset and why I’m not very playful after a defiant moment. This approach calms her down for a moment but I don’t see it stopping the next act of defiance coming my way. I’m hoping, however, that if I can sail through this, we’ll come out on the other side alright because I’m not sure how much of this is a willful child and how much of this is a simple toddler behavior.
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